Tips for Managing "Friendors" at Your Wedding
Working with Family and Friends:
As a seasoned wedding planner, I have seen many couples grapple with the decision to involve family members and friends as vendors (or "friendors") in their big day. While it may seem like a cost-effective and emotionally appealing option, working with friendors can present unique challenges. In this blog post, I'll share some tips on how to manage friendors effectively and ensure your wedding day runs smoothly.
1. Consider the Pros and Cons
Before deciding to work with a friendor, weigh the advantages and disadvantages carefully. While friendors may offer their services at a discounted rate or as a gift, they may lack the experience and professionalism of seasoned vendors. Additionally, involving friendors can sometimes strain relationships if expectations are not met or communication breaks down.
2. Set Clear Expectations and Boundaries
If you choose to work with a friendor, it's crucial to establish clear expectations and boundaries from the outset. Treat the arrangement as you would with any other vendor: discuss the scope of their services, timeline, and any specific requirements you may have. Make sure they understand that while you value their friendship, you need them to fulfill their professional role on your wedding day.
3. Communicate Regularly and Openly
Maintain open and regular communication with your friendors throughout the planning process. Share your vision, preferences, and any changes or updates in a timely manner. Be receptive to their input and concerns, and work together to find solutions if any issues arise. Remember, communication is key to maintaining both a successful working relationship and a strong friendship.
4. Have a Backup Plan
Despite your best efforts, unforeseen circumstances can always occur. It's wise to have a backup plan in case your friendor is unable to fulfill their commitment due to personal emergencies or unexpected events. Consider hiring a professional vendor as a backup or have a contingency plan in place to ensure your wedding day isn't disrupted.
5. Include Them as VIP Guests
If you decide not to work with friendors, consider including them as VIP guests instead. Add them to your guest list and make it clear how much you value their presence and support on your special day. This approach allows them to fully enjoy the celebration without the added pressure of providing a service. By treating them as honored guests, you show your appreciation for their friendship and the important role they play in your life.
6. Trust Your Instincts and Prioritize Your Vision
Ultimately, your wedding day is about you and your partner. Trust your instincts when deciding whether to work with friendors and prioritize your vision for the day. If you feel that hiring professional vendors is the best choice for you, don't feel guilty about making that decision. Your friendors should understand and support your choices.
As a wedding planner, my team and I at Karla Casillas and Co. are here to guide you through the process of selecting the right vendors for your Los Cabos destination wedding. We can help you navigate the complexities of working with friendors and ensure that your wedding day is a joyful, stress-free celebration of your love.
If you have any questions or would like to discuss your wedding plans, please don't hesitate to reach out. We are dedicated to helping you create the wedding of your dreams while maintaining the important relationships in your life.
